It is amazing that as much as adults preach and posture endlessly about honesty, that we find it intrinsically overwhelming, to be honest with ourselves. This usually goes hand in hand with the aggressive and dismissive manner that we treat others with when they are being honest with us about tough issues. The first step in solving a problem is to acknowledge that there is one. Sadly this merry go round of anger, denial and isolation is all too common for people around the world. Take a deep breath and ask yourself the question —am I an alcoholic?
Anxiety Is A Killer
One of the more common causes that will prompt people to have a drink is anxiety. This could come from a stressful job that involves speaking in front of large crowds of highly educated and creative people. Or many times social anxiety, something that should be easy and natural. Both of these are caused by people wanting to control things —that we simply cannot control. You can’t control what people will think of you professionally or otherwise. This is something we all need to accept but find it difficult because we want to be respected and taken seriously. So you may have a drink to drown out your anxiety. Eventually, this will no longer work and you’ll find yourself always anxious and be completely dependant on alcohol. Find a healthier way to deal with anxiety rather than having a drink.
You May Be An Alcoholic If
- You are able to consume large amounts of alcohol and wake up without a hangover.
- You wake up after a night of drinking and can’t remember what you did the night before.
- You have a long habit of drinking before work.
- You hide stashes of alcohol around your home to avoid clashes with your spouse. This practice extends to work, do you have a stash in your desk or toolbox?
- You get angry and defensive when someone tries to talk to you about the amount or frequency that you drink.
- You have an amazing and ever-growing plethora of excuses and justifications for why you drink. ( My job is stressful, childhood trauma, loss of a loved one, loneliness, physical injury.)
- You make everything into an occasion to drink.
- You aggressively coerce others into to drinking with you.
- Find it hard to focus or function on a basic day to day life without having alcohol in your system.
- Have frequent thoughts of suicide or committing violent acts against others.
Let Go And Open Up
It is of paramount importance that you know that you are not alone and that there is help available for you. If you have answered honestly —yes, I have a drinking problem then the next step is to talk to somebody about what to do next. This can be anyone, a friend, a spouse or attend an AA meeting or call a helpline. What you’ll find are people that number one, respect your strength and honesty. Two, many of these people have been in your position in the past and can help guide you to a healthier place. —Are you an alcoholic?